LeBron James is Not Alone

Your Life as a Free Agent

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The story LeBron James seems to be weaving

When LeBron James announced his return to the Cleveland Cavaliers this week, he described it as ‘bigger than basketball.’ And, he’s right.

This is a big deal. But, maybe not in the way that you think.

LeBron didn’t just exercise his power as a basketball legend. No, he exercised his power as a human being… to claim responsibility over his life.

What could it look like if more of us did the same?

Sure, his situation is amplified by the fact that he’s the most impressive basketball athlete alive. He’s also the lead free agent in an extraordinary year of free agency in the National Basketball Association. He’s all over Sports Center. He’s the only thing folks from Ohio have been talking about for a week. Maybe, for the last four years.

But, none of that is the point.

Despite the apparent pressure on his shoulders, LeBron James, the human being, made a hard decision and stood by it. I love how broadcaster and former NBA star Jalen Rose put it. For months, he’s been describing LeBron not as a “businessman” but as a “BUSINESS… (long pause) man!

But the truth is, we all have a chance to be the business… if only we had the guts.

The truth about free agency (hint: we’re all free agents)

We’re all in the business of creativity. We’re all free agents. In this way, King James isn’t so special.

Except he is. Why? Because he takes dominion over his life. He takes responsibility. He knows his signature strengths as well as his constraints and adapts his life as best he knows how in the moment he’s in.

When was the last time you stood up and owned your birthright?

Believe me, I’m asking myself the same question. This is perhaps indictment and invitation for all of us.

The truth about job security (hint: there isn’t any)

I was in a conversation yesterday morning with a client who was talking about how they were afraid to leave their secure job. He was offended when I laughed out loud.

Isn’t the one truth we all know about our circumstances that they will change? So, why would anyone reasonably expect that the appearance of job security would actually be secure?

There is no job security.

And yet, when living out of scarcity and fear, I’m tempted all the time to trade my life away in the hopes that I can feel secure.

Do you think LeBron feels secure? Well, ya, he probably does. He’s got job security, right?!

Only he doesn’t either. Just like you and me, he’s one car wreck… one injury… one bad decision away from radical circumstantial change.

I think that’s why he makes decisions the way he does (four years ago and now). Because he knows he’s always on the clock. Time is ticking and he genuinely seems all-in for making the most of his life.

The truth about pundits (hint: what they think doesn’t matter)

But what about the critics spending endless hours trying to predict the good and bad of your future, speaking as if they actually know them?

Fortune tellers. That’s all they are… except Jalen Rose – he’s pretty smart.

The point: LeBron ignores the critics. Why shouldn’t you?

The truth about what does matter (hint: it’s the story you’re committed to)

What I love most about LeBron’s decision this time around was how poetic it is. He’s Odysseus. He just wants to come home.

Where do you want to come home to? What have you been wanting to come home to for a while now? Don’t you think it might be time?

Your opportunity (and responsibility) to own your life

Here’s the thing: You and I have one shot at this life on earth. Same with LeBron James. He’s stepped up and made a decision. He’s living it out as a free agent.

How free are you living?

As you assess what’s most important to your life today, just for a second, give yourself permission to dream it bigger… to commit it bigger. Go.

If your life were a story you get to write, how will you weave it?

© Dane Sanders

It’s 10:31pm and I Can’t Find My Underwear

When it comes to upgrading your habits, timing is everything.

Why I love moving (and you should too)

Note: I didnt actually pack this truck.
Note: I didn’t actually pack this truck.

Moving Trucks.

I just spent the weekend moving our family from the home we lived in for half a decade to a new place on the other side of town. It wasn’t a little thing either. Nope. It was the whole enchilada. Here’s a synopsis of what I experienced…

  • Processed the idea of a move with my family for about a year
  • Found a place that made sense
  • Packed for weeks
  • Felt like an awful human consumer for having way too much stuff
  • Hid from garbage collectors, embarrassed because of how much we threw out
  • Bragged that because we purged so much that we’d be done moving in half a day
  • Freaked out that six humans and a dog can’t get moved anywhere in half a day
  • Hyperventilated when movers arrived late
  • Mad that I missed about a week’s worth of life because of this move
  • Discovered I am in the midst of life – all the time – even when I move
  • Laughed (a lot) with friends showing up to lend a hand
  • Wondered why the back of such a young man could hurt so much ;)
  • Noticed I walked 28,991 steps up 50+ flights in one day
  • Spent another full day just getting the resemblance of a home
  • Realizing it’ll be 90 days before I really feel in any sort of rhythm again

I can see some of you nodding. You can relate, right? The experience of moving is so common it can feel cliché. But, it was more than that.

It was also a golden moment. Or, at least it could be…

Why humans don’t change much.

Despite the fact that people rarely change very much (especially “balanced” people), the idea of habit change is remarkably popular these days.

That said, there is a rare but universally acknowledged exception to the rule-of-not-changing. It goes like this…

In times of significant life transition, we all have a window of opportunity to do life in a new way.

Think of the phenomenon like this: We all have problems we’re trying to solve in life. Everything from where to get groceries to how to stay active to which coffee shop you hit up on your way to work.

Once we find a basic routine to deal with these very human and often pedestrian dilemmas, many of us tend to settle in. In time, we can become old dogs doing our tricks. We stick with them because they work well enough (at least for the most part).

That all shifts though when we stumble into the unfamiliar.

When faced with the need to find new ways to solve old problems, we become willing to forge unfamiliar paths. And it just happens to turn out that the most predictable milestones that invite unfamiliar routines are things like…

  • Getting married
  • Having a kid (or)
  • Moving to a new part of town

When we change our context like that, we’re open to finding new rhythms, at least for a little while. Once the new rhythms get routine, they tend to harden up.

In case you’re wondering, this phenomenon isn’t lost on marketers. Why do you think you got bombarded with Lowe’s and Target coupons the last time you changed your address at the Post Office?

Companies can be so welcoming!
Companies can be so welcoming!

They’re looking to hit us up when the clay is squishy. And, they know there’s a window where things will be less flexible and folks like me will soon be more out of reach.

Fertile Ground.

What I love about this dynamic is it can work in the other direction too. Transitional moments aren’t just about what companies out there can do to me.

It’s also an opportunity for me to hit myself up in fresh and intentional ways.

  • Want to take on a new exercise regimen?
  • Eager to reset my eating habits?
  • Curious what a new daily method could look like if you could wave a magic wand?

Now’s your chance.

In my particular case, the problem is I’m exhausted. My hands feel swollen from lifting heavy boxes. I feel entitled to not do the extra stuff that make a difference for new habits to develop. I want to just kind of sleepwalk for a while… or just sleep.

The window is closing.

But, then I remember what I’m in the middle of. The window is closing. 90 days from now, my new normal will be, well, normal and I’ll be less apt to shift.

The irony is if I really want to change, going all-in right now is what will give me my best (and maybe only) shot.

When I really think about it though, “moving” itself might just be a construct. Can’t I take any 90 day window and decide “I just moved” or “had a baby” or “got married” and mix it up? If the window is closing, why can’t I just open up another new window and go again?

What it comes down to for me is whether I want this thing enough to turn my world upside down… right now. I wonder if this is the real gift of making a move.

© Dane Sanders